Systematic failure of Men

I don’t know what it is lately, but it seems like a lot of guys want to hook up with me…  but that’s it.

 

I refuse to think that it’s something that I’m doing because I’m not leading anyone on, I’m super upfront with the fact that I’m looking to find love; a real relationship. I always act like myself- stupid and goofy. And I pride myself on the fact that I cry over mini-horses; I have no shame.

I don’t understand why it’s so hard to understand why I wouldn’t want to sleep with someone who doesn’t want to be with me.

What happened to dating someone for a second before you immediately had sex. Like I get it, sex it great, but it’s really not everything. Like at all.

I feel like it’s our society that’s failing at this. We have such a huge hookup culture now because of online dating, that not only is it near impossible to actually meet someone naturally, but then when you do, goodluck trying to have a real connection with them above physicality.

 

It all feels like a cop out. When guys say that they aren’t ready to be in a relationship, or that they’ve never had one longer than a few months, I just want to grab them by the ear and yell into it, “Shut the fuck up and take a chance already! “

Everything you’re spewing is just a whiney, little- boy excuse.

And if you have that much insecurity and trust-issues; GO TO THERAPY. There is nothing to be ashamed of. It’s amazing and truly helps you work out your demons. I go and I love it. I truly think everyone should go no matter what their situation is (as long as it’s in your means).

ugh. Another rant about men. But like, I wouldn’t complain if I had went on a date over this last year and a half where sex wasn’t mentioned atleast once. But it was, and it was always initiated by the guy.

Is there nothing else that goes on in your brain? There has to be… right? RIGHT?

I’m not prude, but like, I promise there is more to life…. right? RIGHT?

Or just be upfront with people. Use your words. How are you actually feeling? What do you really want?

It just feels like sincerity has died.

 

And now time to tackle the age old myth that, “Women are Complicated”. Because you guys love to use this against us. Here it is- the secret to making us swoon.

-pick the place that we’re going. Don’t ask us even- just pick it. I’ll already be 50% less stressed out

-buy us flowers. Not every time, but like maybe a single stem on the first date? Maybe on the fifth date a couple more?  Or, don’t want to buy us cut flowers since they’ll soon die? Buy us a potted plant! A little succulent or something; How fun and quirky! And as long as we don’t kill it, we’ll have something to remember you by. I’m not saying you have to spend almost any money- but I swear, we won’t forget that you brought us flowers. It will put a smile on our face for the rest of the day, and we will tell everyone how sweet it was that you did that.

– don’t talk about money or cars. It’s gross, we don’t care, and again, there has to be something more interesting about you then what you make and how you spend it.

-Be honest. Be up-front. Pretend your mom is there, how would you act then? That’s how we always want you to act. And if it’s horrible, then you’re a bad person and goodbye.

 

Anyways, to all those girls out there dating and struggling to be seen for who you really are, please know that you are not alone, you are so beautiful; inside and out, and you will find someone to be weird with.